GERRY's BLOG
- Gerry Mahaffey
- Jul 28, 2015
- 3 min read
A JOURNEY BY COACH
I learned later in life when I was 40 something to drive a car. Anyone who has learned a skill like driving knows there are roughly three stages of learning.
As I began driving I was completely unaware of what I didn’t know, unconsciously incompetent; as I progressed I became acutely aware of how useless I was, conscious of my own incompetence; finally as I mastered the skill, I became both fully aware and was able to drive well, with both consciousness and competence.
Similar principles of learning and growth can be applied to our lives, work and relationships. We are all at different stages in our journey, but with practice, we have within us both the consciousness and competence to drive our lives successively. Socrates believed that a life unexamined is not worth living and that with exploration we have the truth of our existence right there within us.
We are ultimately the experts on ourselves; within us we have the unique answers to the challenges that life poses us as individuals. However, we lose our way. We may be progressing up the ladder, but it may be on the wrong wall.
Few, if any, escape the struggles in being human; we all carry either (or both) the existential challenge of meaning and purpose, of why are we here, who we are, or we carry some form of personal neurotic baggage, from our individual circumstances, our past, events, relationships that affect our present and future.
As well as the universal, human obstacles, we have our own personal blockages, demons, saboteurs to living out our truth.
In order to re-gain the qualities within that we long for, the love, joy, peace, fulfilment, the fun, we need to reconnect, reconcile, re-energise, revitalise ourselves, to our purpose, our core values, aims, and objectives. We need to re-align our commitments to our inheritance, to what makes ‘our heart sing’, to the core, to the spirit of who we are, so that we can once again ‘dance in the moment’, live our lives, work and relationships to the full.
The foundation for the co-active coaching model is based on the premise that we all have the necessary inherent and unique qualities of being creative, resourceful and whole.
The coaching examines and empowers us through simple, though powerfully rich, methods and tools, to find the answers to our most pressing challenges. It explores territory beyond the masks and personas we inevitably play out in the multitude of roles we fulfil, to whom we truly are. It helps us to connect with our life’s work, aims and objectives and bring them to earth, to achieve our full potential, to be our highest selves, lead our best lives.
By providing us with a balance of perspectives on the challenging areas of our lives, such coaching provides the soil and plants the seeds for life-transforming changes. In a busy world of endless activity, it goes beyond the head, heart, hands, past the thinking, feeling, and doing to our being, to our human being.
Ultimately its purpose, is to empower us to walk the path of our lives, beyond, who others think we are, to who we are and even perhaps to who we are destined to become.
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